Boundaries

 BOUNDARIES ARE NOT A MAYBE THEY ARE ONE OF LIFE'S NECESSITIES YOU HAVE TO CREATE YOURSELF.when the BIBLE instructed us to GUIDE YOUR HEART FOR OUR OF IT ARE THE ISSUES OF LIFE,it means God knows that the heart being the centre of decision making, if not guarded properly then it may become exposed to both unhealthy and healthy decisions and this may lead to contamination and high possibility of shutting down of the entire system.

    He also emphasized that out of the heart comes out issues of life and so one must be guided,i always tell people i so much enjoy my own company that if i was ever in a place i didn't enjoy, my mind does time travel and i see myself on my bed listening to nice music which eventually helps me relax and sleep lol well that's just how i am able to be in control of how my day gets to end,now that's asides the point have you ever had that person who never calls before visiting and they always never almost leave lol well we all have been there and good news the solution is as simple as creating BOUNDARIES. 

   A friend constantly visited and i was too polite to refuse that it became a habit and one day i locked the door and after knocking i screamed and said i wanted to sleep so please call next time before you come, well that solved that problem then but did you know i created that problem myself because i didn't set healthy boundaries and if i wasn't bold enough i would have probably suffered in silence for a very long time.

Boundaries are the root cause of alot of problems going on even politically you see 2 countries fighting over boundaries of land which leads to war and sometimes death of it's people,boundaries to me are the reason most mother in law and daughters in law always have unresolved issues because if they both knew they were important in the life and no one can take the place of the other then know their roles then i highly doubt there would be issues well even though there are some cases that are exceptional lol,boundaries when set at the first stage of any relationship can really help blossom a healthy relationship and a fruit one because imagine a situation where a gardener doesn't know where to stop and extends into the living room he only ends up creating problems rather than solve any .

Moving forward we must learn to cultivate healthy boundaries, we must learn to respect boundaries set by even our best people, we must finally learn identify boundaries,when people are angry and don't want to talk don't force them,when they grieve or react differently to situations don't judge we aren't built with the same capacity.

Normalize making healthy excuses for people when they don't react the way you expect them to,it helps you more than it helps them by eliminating any form of negativity that intends to grow,and finally know when people need thier space even from you,Yes You?even before they say it ,be sensitive enough to take a walk if that's needed for the next phase. 

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